GIVEAWAY: Things You Should Never Say to a New Parent

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Happy Monday, everyone!

Today we’re kicking off the week with a little Rockabye Baby Etiquette 101. (By the way, if you haven’t read the “How to Hold Other People’s Babies” post, you must!) The lesson of the day is simple: Sh*t you should never say to a new parent.


  1)   “Your baby is really cute . . .” if you don’t mean it. We may not be getting much sleep, but when you become a parent, it’s like your BS radar goes up a notch. So if you’re not being sincere when showering our kid with compliments because you feel obliged to, we’ll know. And those fake smiles . . . save ’em. 2)   “Are you getting much sleep?” No. But you know that already so don’t remind us that we aren’t. And you probably don’t want to spend the short amount of time you have our undivided attention talking about how little sleep we’re getting, right? 3)   “Are you free fill in the blank night?” During the early months, seriously, there is no “free” time and when there is, it’s likely spent doing things like catching up on sleep, eating uninterrupted and, you know, showering. 4)   “You look good . . .” if you don’t mean it. See #1. But it’s nice of you to say so. I personally think I look better sleep deprived, but my husband looked like a wreck. A loveable wreck, but if you’re someone who is used to an average of 7-8 hours of sleep a night, well, good luck! 5)   “Why don’t you fill in the blank . . .” Frankly, if you’re thinking of saying anything to a new parent that starts with those 3 words, best to reword in a different way. One of the most annoying things we could do without is all the unwanted advice. Yes, we probably vent about all the things that are bothering us because of #3, but sometimes we just want someone who doesn’t (lovably) spit, poop or pee on us all day. Now, if we actually ask you, pointedly, your help on something, please share! 6)   “Will you have another?” Um, how about you try asking after we’ve survived the first year.

 Now, it’s your turn….

What are things YOU think you should never say to a new parent? 

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  • I agree on the “why aren’t you doing ____?” This could apply to breastfeeding vs formula feeding, babywearing vs strollers, cry-it-out vs responsive parenting. Everyone has their own way of trying things out, and will eventually come to a solution that works for their family. If they want help or advice, they will ask or seek it out themselves.

    Megan M on
  • Let’s see…

    Why are you so tired? Hmmm…I don’t know…try many nights of broken sleep.

    You used to do such and such and now you don’t. Sorry…again that whole sleep deprivation thing again!

    And nothing drives me insane than being compared to other people. Maybe they were super women who could take care of everything and everyone on little sleep…but I guess that’s not me!

    Jennifer T on
  • “Are you using the ____? we got you”? We appreciate gifts but they don’t require we use them all immediately and in the fashion the person who gave the gift intends.

    Mark D on
  • You just have to do it this this _____. It’s the only thing that worked for us!

    There is always more than one way to do it and there is no “right way” for everyone!

    Also commenting on the size of the baby- “too big” or “too small”. This alienates parents. You don’t know what kind of genetics or environmental factors attributed to this kiddos size. Be kind!

    Alex Porter on
  • Are they sleeping through the night yet? MAN, I HATED THAT! lol

    Erin W on

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